Are You Living In Reality?


  • to claim, to allege, a form of deliberate deception
  • to lay claim to an ability, status, advantage
  • to engage in make-believe

If you watched Taken as a man and thought, yeah, I could do that. Or perhaps you’re more Frank Castle and you’d burn the world down if something bad were to happen to your family (this is where I find my imagination going).

Either way, those are movies, and while they can inspire, they are not a realistic expectation one should have for themselves. So why am I asking you to consider this question?

Because Love Is Not Enough

I get it. I have three kids and have invested my adult life in raising them. I’ve been a soccer dad, coach and referee. I’ve coached baseball and taught them how to ride a bike, swim, and drive. I’ve volunteered at their schools, hosted birthday parties, and built living room forts.

I love being a dad, and I would do anything for my kids. This includes sacrificing my life for them. And I know you fall in the same camp. It’s enate in you, a part of your makeup and comes second nature. It’s part of the reason you’re interested in this newsletter or listen to my podcast.

But what about love, and being an involved parent, actually qualifies you to think you’ll be able to step up and respond in an emergency?

“Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth” – Mike Tyson

I don’t want you to rely on love alone as your plan, and instead encourage you to use it as a motivator to make sure you can take the first punch.

The Dunning-Kruger Effect

The Dunning–Kruger effect is defined as the tendency of people with low ability in a specific area to give overly positive assessments of this ability.”

Do you see where I’m going with this?

  • Are you always in the yellow, assessing your environment for threats?
  • Do you have a plan when your spider sense goes off?
  • Have you trained in different scenarios to know if these plans will work?
  • Are you physically capable to execute this plan?
  • Do you train in hand to hand or a martial art?
  • Do you carry a firearm on you at all times (when legal to do so)?
  • Do you train on your firearm; dry practice, ranges, gun courses?
  • Do you have medical training to assist in an emergency (CPR/AED)?
  • Do you carry a tourniquet or stop the bleed kit?

I’m not trying to overwhelm you or create a “that’s so much to do so why bother” scenario. Simply wanting to point out that everything I listed, is already expected of you from the most important people in your world, your kids.

The Bubble Effect

You have built a bubble around your kids, and likely a strong one. You moved to a good neighborhood, made sure they went to a good school, put them in team sports, got to know some of their friends parents. You talk to them about bad guys, drugs, and getting good grades and going to college (I realize college in the last few years has taken on a new meaning).

What you’ve also done, is made yourself their central focus when they don’t know something (mom have you seen my ….), or when they get scared (DAD!!!!). You’ve instilled in them that with you, they have nothing to fear.

I don’t want to take that bubble away from you. But I’m also on your side.

The Bad Guy Gets To Decide

It’s not up to you when your ability will be challenged. You don’t get to decide when you’re involved in a bad car accident, when a natural disaster strikes, or when you come across a truly evil person hell bent on hurting you or your family. Understand it’s the bad guy that sets the clock for testing you and if you’re ready.

While I can’t tell you when that moment will come, I have more then made the case. If you love them, if they mean the world to you, if you would die for them.

Do What You Need To Do

I know the bubble makes you feel safe. I know voting gives you hope 🙄. I know you live in a good area and not Portland or Chicago or New York. I know right now you think you’re good. But what about tomorrow?

And when tomorrow does come, and you are not in fact ready, and your safety and the lives of your family will require a stranger to save them. What happens when nobody comes, and you are exposed as the fraud you are?

For the DIYer, I have the podcast and this newsletter, plus my LinkedIn feed to instill motivation, challenge thought, and discuss all things masculinity, mindset, fitness, everyday carry, and you being prepared to meet the enemy.

For those who felt this gut punch and are moved to do something about it, let’s jump on a call and go through where you are right now, identify immediate items that need addressed, and get you on your path to becoming dangerous.

I look forward to hearing from you, either through LinkedIn or Email.