Bottom Line Up Front: A dangerous man is a threat to the status quo; confident in his roles as a [protector, provider, and leader]; capable in his ability to [assess, prepare, and execute]; courageous in his fight for his [family, beliefs, and values].
WHO AM I?
A 20-year military veteran, husband, and father of 3.
I value my faith, family, and freedom.
I focus my energy on ‘my path’, leading ‘my family’, adding value to ‘my team’, and fighting for ‘my tribe’.
I live a life of strength, honor, and respect; I prefer to be thought of as ‘old-school’ or a ‘barbarian’; finding a tribe, defining a purpose, and living outside the boundaries of the utopian nightmare.
I believe in leading by example, hard work, reaping what you sow, adding value, challenge accepted, content of character, and never losing, you learn.
I honor real heroes; men who fought, and died, believing in something so strongly that they laid their lives down fighting for it.
I am a masculine man, strength, and honor define me, my family, my greatest priority, the men around me, my greatest asset, and my tribe, my ability to define a legacy.
WHAT IS BECOMING A DANGEROUS MAN?
An idea, a mentality, a default aggressive attitude. It began 7 years ago when I almost lost my family and culminated 3 years ago in the summer of “mostly peaceful” protests.
The short of it is for the first ten years of marriage I was a quitter. Every fight I’d rather sleep in my truck than deal with, every battle I’d choose silence and ignorance, and when the war got to be too much, I’d look elsewhere and imagine greener pastures. The men around me at this time were no model citizens and with no father figure in my life, I was all but alone and started to see that as the better option for everyone.
The long of it I got what I wanted, I had done just enough to push her over the edge and consider us done. She had lost the will to fight for our marriage and I finally had my out. Only at that moment, something went wrong, and the relief I had anticipated never came. In that instant, in mere seconds, I saw the entire future of what could have been flashed before my eyes, and the thought of not being in it devastated me.
That was the day I became a man.
It was the summer of 2020, I was a husband, father of three, and coming up on 18 years in the Navy. I was on autopilot and had life figured out. Then the “mostly peaceful” protests got a little too close to home, and my ability to protect my family was called into question.
I’ll never forget the scene unfolding on tv, not but 2 hours from where we lived, of a man getting pulled from his car and beaten near to death. A lifetime of lifting heavy, moving fast, and fighting would be no match against a mob, hell-bent on destruction and not fearing any legal recourse. I needed to regain my confidence, and my ability to protect those I love.
The day following the broadcast, I bought my first handgun. Within months I had put nearly 1000 rounds down range, registered to be a concealed carry holder, got insurance through USCCA, and consumed probably 50 hours of everyday carry (EDC) videos on YT.
It wasn’t just that I was willing to sacrifice my life for theirs, that was always in me. This was a mindset shift, from a defensive to an offensive, from reacting to being prepared, from calling for help to being the help. I went from “everything is gonna be all right”, to “fuck around and find out”.
In combat, we had our escalation of force procedures and accepted we basically had to let them shoot first. But in the back of all our minds was the saying: “Better to be judged by 12 than carried by 6”. As a father, I accepted this same mentality every time I left the house.
That was the day I became dangerous.
WHY WE NEED MEN TO BE DANGEROUS?
I spent years rebuilding my relationship, learning through conversations with higher caliper men, counselors, and the minds of some great authors. The foundation was rebuilt for what it took to be a husband, how to have healthy conflict, what your role as the leader actually means, the difference between taking care of yourself and being selfish, how what you say is trumped by what you do, and the list goes on.
Then came the end of my military career, suffice it to say the mandates and DEI that infected the military was enough for me to say “no more”. I’d already seen a decline in standards with the softening of physical fitness requirements and the expanded waste lines. I knew this military was no longer for me, but hadn’t settled on what was next.
My ah-hah moment came to me in the car, on a normal drive to work, listening to a podcast. The guest were talking about the state of our country and offering solutions to our current state. After some good back and forth, one of them said “screw the sheep, it’s time to wake the lions”.
To say it was instant I’d be lying, but within 2 months of that podcast and those words, I launched a blog called Becoming A Dangerous Man. The original goal was to speak into the world all that I had learned about becoming a man, what it means to be a husband, a father, the leadership required, and the roles you fill as not only the provider but the protector.
The blog has evolved into a website, a podcast, and the coaching I do both in a men’s group and 1:1. My ideas have gone from saving the country to saving men, from voting harder to looking inside yourself, and from we can prevent the train from falling off the tracks to we have to be prepared for when it derails to rebuild.
As you read these words, every hour that passes we are closer to the end than we are to a return to normal. No election will save us, no party has the answer, and no government our best interest. It is up to the individual and the family unit, it is up to the men in a given area who will step up and take charge when the world around them seems to crumble. It is the default aggressive who will lead during the chaos, but without preparation, without a plan, it will be all motivation and no direction.
Assess your current situation, identify key areas of strength and where you need immediate attention, and can get the best return on investment. Shift your mindset away from relying on anyone outside yourself, your family, and the men closest to you, your battle team. Define your why, and decide now to become dangerous.